In “Tough Passages,” we’re looking at the difficult verses in the Bible that are often brought up by secular people as reasons the Bible doesn’t make sense, and discovering how they actually reveal the character, love, and glory of God in a beautiful way. Last month, we looked at Leviticus 19:17-18 and “Love your neighbor;” for February, we’re taking a hard look at Luke 16:18.
Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
The Secular Response
According to this passage, all members of the congregation that have been divorced and/or remarried would be sinners and should be kicked out of the church. With a 50%* divorce rate in America, it’s safe to say that people are selectively ignoring this rule, yet somehow still seeing themselves as “pious.”
On one level this is a very simple passage. It’s short, direct, and to the point. There are no parables or metaphors. And it’s even spoken by Jesus, so you can’t dismiss it as some rogue interpretation of one of the Apostles.
But its context is kind of confusing. Jesus has just rebuked the Pharisees about their love of money, and he’s about to tell a parable about the torment of a rich man who ignored a poor man’s need. Nothing else in the passage seems to suggest the topic of marriage and divorce. We need more help here, and Luke doesn’t offer it.
Matthew does, however. In the parallel passage in Matthew 5:31-32, Matthew recounts a longer version of the conversation that Luke truncates. In it, Jesus is telling a crowd what it means to be a child of God: the Beatitudes begin the chapter (“Blessed are those…”), and He continues by entreating them to be set apart and holy, in some fairly extreme ways: a child of God doesn’t get angry, because anger is the heart equivalent of murder. A child of God doesn’t lust after someone, because lust is the heart equivalent of cheating on your wife. A child of God is true to their word. A child of God loves even their enemies. And amid these things, he says that a child of God doesn’t get a divorce.
But in verse 48, Jesus sums up his entire sermon when he drops a massive command: “You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”
Does Jesus really expect us to be perfect? Yes (I’ll get to that in a second), but it’s more than that. Throughout this chapter, Jesus isn’t just telling the people what a child of God looks like, He’s also telling them what God looks like. He’s telling them that a child of God should act like God; in the same way parents rebuke a child by telling them “we don’t do that sort of thing in this family,” Jesus here is telling His people what God’s family values are. We don’t fly off the handle in this family. We don’t lust or hate or lie in this family. And we don’t get divorced in this family.
Ephesians 5:32 reminds us that human marriages are intended to be a reflection of God’s love for His people, as first described in Ezekiel 16 – a very graphic passage about God seeing a broken, defeated people, loving them deeply and restoring their fortunes, and remaining faithful to them despite their betrayal and unfaithfulness. God hates human divorce because He wants our marriages be reflections of that perfect love.
But we can’t be perfect. We’re humans, a word which is practically synonymous with falling short. The phrase “I’m only human” literally means “I’m imperfect.” And that’s why, just as quickly as Jesus commanded us to be perfect, He died on the cross to cleanse us of our imperfections and make us perfect in the future.
(Incidentally, that’s why we don’t kick sinners out of the church. Piety and church attendance is another thing that secular and Christian people alike get wrong a lot, and we’ll deal with that a little bit more in “Appendix A” this Friday.)
So where does this leave the divorcee?
Well, to be sure, God doesn’t want you to get a divorce. If your marriage is in trouble, please try everything you can before resorting to divorce.
But if you’ve been divorced, please rest assured: Christ died for all of your sins, even your divorce. And He welcomes you to the church with open, waiting, hopeful, joyful arms.
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*Statistics are difficult. The 50% stat Ivana quotes in her listicle is misleading; the actual statistic is that approximately twice as many marriages happen every year as divorces. This number is skewed badly by second and third marriages, doesn’t take remarriage into account, and is an extrapolation based on survey data, not a hard data point. The idea that 50% of people will go through a divorce in their lives is certainly no longer true, and may never have been in the first place.